Is having sex before marriage a sin? Even if not sex is any kind of sexual act like kissing a sin?

You ask about what belongs within marriage and what does not. Let me speak plainly: the union of man and woman in one flesh is meant for marriage. This is what my Father intended from the beginning, when He made them male and female. What God has joined together in marriage is holy. But you also ask about a kiss. Consider the heart behind the action. Is every touch that passes between two people equally weighty before God? A kiss of greeting is not the same as becoming one flesh. What matters is this: Does what you do honor God and honor one another? Does it lead you toward purity or toward using another person for your own desire? I tell you, whoever looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery in his heart. The sin begins in what you nurture within, not merely in the act itself. So ask yourself: What are you feeding in your heart? Are you treating one another as beloved children of God, or as objects of appetite? The world will give you many rules about what you may and may not do. But I say to you: walk in the light. Flee from what inflames selfish desire. Pursue what is pure, what is honorable, what builds up love that is patient and kind. If you must ask whether something draws you closer to God or further away, you likely already know the answer.

You ask why God made desire itself if He calls you to master it. But tell me: did God create something evil when He made hunger? When a man is hungry, does that make hunger a sin? Or is it how he satisfies that hunger that matters? Will he steal bread from his neighbor, or will he work honestly and share what he has? The desire you speak of is not sin. It is part of how my Father made you, and what He makes is good. He gave you desire so that in marriage, a man and woman might know profound union, joy, and the creation of life. This is a gift. But you were also given something else: a will. The ability to choose. Would you rather be a stone that cannot sin because it cannot choose? Or a child of God who learns to love what is good and turn from what destroys? You say most fall prey to lust. Yes, because the way is narrow. I did not come to tell you that following my Father would be easy. I came to tell you it is possible. The same God who made you with desire also dwells within you by the Spirit, giving you strength to walk in righteousness. Why does desire come before you are ready? Perhaps so you learn this: that you are not meant to walk alone in your own strength. You need God. You need His grace, His Spirit, the fellowship of others who walk this path. The struggle itself teaches you to depend on the Father.

You speak from real pain, and I hear it. You did not ask to be born. You feel made for a purpose you did not choose, needing a God you did not select. But let me ask you: does a child ask to be born? Does that make parents narcissistic for bringing forth life? Or is it that love creates, and creation itself is an act of giving? My Father did not make you incomplete as a cruelty. He made you for relationship. Tell me, if you could be utterly self-sufficient, needing no one, never lonely, never longing for love or connection—would that be freedom? Or would it be isolation? The greatest stone needs nothing. It is also dead. You were made in the image of God. And what is God? God is love. Love by its nature gives and receives. It pours out and draws near. My Father did not create you to grovel before Him like a tyrant demanding worship. He created you because love desires to share itself, to know and be known. You say you are His playthings. Yet here is what I know: the Father so loved the world that He gave His only Son. I came not to be served but to serve, and to lay down my life. Does a narcissist die for his toys? Your need for God is not weakness. It is the condition for love. Can you love what you do not need? Can you receive love from what needs nothing from you? You are angry that you were made. That is honest. But consider: would you rather not exist at all?